tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post3867937884553334640..comments2023-11-02T00:52:39.684-07:00Comments on Ho Hum...twiddle a dee!!!: Ass-sphincter says what?Barneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00940448784322244172noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-58550193807398345702008-11-11T14:38:00.000-08:002008-11-11T14:38:00.000-08:00Keep in mind that swinging and being a player are ...Keep in mind that swinging and being a player are two different things, two different lifestyles. I'm dabbled with both. Sounds like deep talks are in order.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04708751000193870576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-18712553724931317002008-11-04T11:01:00.000-08:002008-11-04T11:01:00.000-08:00Staying mum on the whole thing.Staying mum on the whole thing.Krystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10256521369614598137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-36551626216667652112008-10-30T06:49:00.000-07:002008-10-30T06:49:00.000-07:00I really don't know what to say that hasn't alread...I really don't know what to say that hasn't already been covered by Bizza and Janice. <BR/>I think taking it day by day would be best. Trust is a hard thing, for me too, but sometimes you have to just jump and try and hope. Little by little it can be earned.<BR/>As far as his swinging, gosh, I dunno. I'd have more discussions on this to make sure he's really ready to give that up and that he's not just hoping you'll come around to the idea eventually.Weekends Offhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310814843135512710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-28692654276772222352008-10-30T00:12:00.000-07:002008-10-30T00:12:00.000-07:00Actually, I'm still a male slut. I just found a wo...Actually, I'm still a male slut. I just found a woman that's worth suppressing my primal urges.<BR/><BR/>Besides, there are incentives to my little arrangement... but unlike other bloggers, I've agreed to never ever ever ever ever ever write about them. <BR/><BR/>Let's just say that we have a mutually agreed-on situation that fits both of our comfort-levels.The Bizzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17797871556831556557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-66264442495445415112008-10-29T09:29:00.000-07:002008-10-29T09:29:00.000-07:00Bizza - I think he would be very willing to take ...Bizza - I think he would be very willing to take it slow, one day at a time.. no rush.. because I couldnt honestly rush it.. <BR/><BR/> And since you were once that male-slut puppy as he is, maybe just maybe.. your onto somethingBarneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00940448784322244172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-55782804963420806612008-10-29T09:26:00.000-07:002008-10-29T09:26:00.000-07:00Yes, kids are involved, on both our parts. He has...Yes, kids are involved, on both our parts. He has never met my kids... since we werent anything serious I never introduced him to them. He did ask about that, how would "we" deal with the kids, I told him when the time comes I would handle it. <BR/><BR/> He has more questions pertaining to the children, were suppose to sit down and talk about it this weekend.<BR/> Which brings up my next question... are relationships suppose to be so questionable?Barneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00940448784322244172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-49155606068560307212008-10-29T07:08:00.000-07:002008-10-29T07:08:00.000-07:00I like Bizza's comment and agree to the extent of ...I like Bizza's comment and agree to the extent of your own personal feelings. But children are involved and that's where my concerns lay.<BR/><BR/>How do your children feel about him? <BR/><BR/>Bringing him further into their lives as someone who they can depend on to care for them is a great benefit and will add stability and security thus creating a calm home for all.<BR/><BR/>But, the break-up could be devistating if they jump in with both feet and feelings of betrayal and mistrust could manifest effecting them later.<BR/><BR/>Sorry there's no clear answer, it seems you have a lot to think about.janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10885403909609923540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-81799750210953418012008-10-29T05:15:00.000-07:002008-10-29T05:15:00.000-07:00I agree with BIZZA. Good answer.I agree with BIZZA. Good answer.Carmel Beautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09555255368575469368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-15542884636811662572008-10-28T19:32:00.000-07:002008-10-28T19:32:00.000-07:00What? Wait... your title tricked me!Now... to your...What? <BR/><BR/>Wait... your title tricked me!<BR/><BR/>Now... to your questions... I fear that I won't be much help to you, here. Or maybe I will, depending on your perspective.<BR/><BR/>I slightly disagree with rage. Slightly. Matters of the heart are rarely neat and rational. If you wait until you have "no doubt" before taking the next step, you will NEVER take that step, which is perfectly alright if you're cool with being the resident crazy cat lady. <BR/><BR/>But I agree with Rage's assessment of trust being a key element to a meaningful relationship. <BR/><BR/>So, we return to the question: what next? <BR/><BR/>He has feelings for you. That's awesome. You have feelings for him. That is also awesome. You communicated that swinging is a deal-breaker for you in an exclusive relationship and he seems to understand that. Sweet. <BR/><BR/>So, we return to the question: what next? <BR/><BR/>Well, I ask you, why does there have to be a "next" thing right now? <BR/><BR/>If someone hands you the keys to a shiny red convertible corvette and tells you there is a 50/50 chance that they will either let you have it for free or repossess it one night while you sleep, do you spend your days worrying about the repo-man, or do you let the top down and enjoy the ride?<BR/><BR/>If you tell him this: "I care about you too, but let's not define this just yet. I like where we are, and I like where we're going. I just don't want to go too fast," <BR/><BR/>- if you tell him that, will that make him say, "Screw it! I'm not waiting to see. Take the next step, or I'm gone!" <BR/><BR/>Do you think he'll go that route? If he does, he was never sincere in the first place. <BR/><BR/>But I suspect that if his feelings for you are as deep and profound as he says they are, time will not be a factor. <BR/><BR/>You both care about one another way more than either of you expected. That is a rare and wonderful gift. Maybe the next step is to stay where you are and see where those feelings take you. <BR/><BR/>But then again, I'm just another male-slut who fell madly in love with a chick that was once a 100-mile weekend bootycall, What the hell do I know?The Bizzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17797871556831556557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-6921788754434637662008-10-28T16:47:00.000-07:002008-10-28T16:47:00.000-07:00Oh.. very valid point.. if I dont trust.. what's t...Oh.. very valid point.. <BR/>if I dont trust.. what's the point...<BR/><BR/>hmmm... Im destined to be free and single.. <BR/><BR/>the crazy lady on the corner.. with all the dogs!!!Barneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00940448784322244172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16019207.post-70412067468948181632008-10-28T16:36:00.000-07:002008-10-28T16:36:00.000-07:00Ahh, gotta have trust and no doubt in your mind be...Ahh, gotta have trust and no doubt in your mind before you proceed with the next step.ragehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06983729666150401903noreply@blogger.com