I got these from Weekends.. I picked last weeks' cuz I liked the questions better than this weeks.. I may do this weeks too.. but I dont know.. Im flighty like that.. so there....
1. Do you feel that children these days are disciplined enough?
No, I feel that kids now days have no respect for their elders, no respect or common courtesy for those around them. They seem to expect their parents to bend over backwards and hand them what ever they want on a silver platter. For example... my son came home last year, and asked me if I even loved him... "where is this coming from"
Well turns out, a kid at school told him that I didnt love him because I wouldnt buy him anything he wanted, that kid's parents bought him whatever he wanted.
My son asked him when was the last time him and his parent sat down to a family dinner and just talked, about the day, school issues, the news going on in the world.
To which the kid replied, I dont talk to my parents... the work all the time.
My point exactly, to many parents have demanding jobs, leaving their kids as latch key children, or just leaving them alone. Trust me I get the demands of the job I get all that.. but you do NOT buy your kid whatever they want.. it's just a way to shut them up, and to clear your conscious...
ok.. soap box..
2. What are your thoughts about the "time out chair?"
I think it works to a point, but after awhile, what's the big deal about time outs? Depending on the crime, depends on the punishment. For small children, I would say up to maybe 2nd grade, the time out chair is effective.. but after that.. it would be dependable against the crime.
3. When YOU were a child, what form of discipline did your parents use most often?
Ha!!! When I was younger, there was very little punishment for me, I was a good wee child.. then again I was raised with the fear of God. He would spite me, and if I wasnt careful he would knock me down. As I got older, grade school I would say.. it was the image of the wooden spoon that terrified me. Thankfully it was never used on my ass.. but I had seen it's mark left upon my brother a time or two..
As I got older, and I become more problematic.. it was belt buckles on bare ass, willow switches that I had to pick from the tree,hairbrushes that didnt brake, spatulas, sometimes whatever was in reach of my father when he felt that I needed a good "smack".... once or twice it was a slap from a hand.. and I believe there was a fist once too..
4. Did your parents have to constantly remind you of the guidelines they set for you, or did they just have to LOOK at you as a "gentle" reminder?
No... it was well ingrained into us children you treat your elders w/respect, and you use ALL your manners around others, yes please, no thank you, yes sir, no sir, yes ma'am, no ma'am. whatever the case may be, I was a very polite child, even when I was doing drugs and strung out.. I still used my manner.. I think that's the one thing all that church going did for me..
5. What are your thoughts about screaming kids in public places?
It depends.. really it does.. if you just told the kid no.. and it starts screaming.. well pick it up and go outside.. dont walk around the damn store letting the kid throw a fit.. holy hell..no one else wants to hear it.. duh!!!! How many times I have left a cart sitting in the middle of a walk way and just walked out of a store because my daughter decided to throw a fit??? Gawd Im so glad her wee years are over.. now.. I will just leave her there :)
If the kid has fallen out the back of a shopping cart because of parental neglect.. then.. throw the parent down and let them hit their head and see how it feels..
oh wait, I got off topic...sorry..
Take the kid either outside, or into a restroom.. calm them down.. again..no one wants to hear it... babies are different, anything under the age of a yr old.. that doesnt count.. but over that.. you can talk to them.. and get them to calm down..
6. What do you feel is the BIGGEST mistake parents make when it comes to disciplining children?
Ignoring what is going on.. I did that for years w/my son.. until he was almost 4.. I figured he did no wrong.. and as he got older it got worse. It took 2 yrs of me constantly on his ass, all the time, day or night to get things turned around.. little did I realize I was making things worse by not doing anything.. OMG.. he was a holy terror..
He's 13 now, people are amazed at how well mannered he is, well behaved, polite, kind blah blah blah.. Im proud of both he and I.. we came along way.
Same thing w/my daughter.. but I think that's the biggest problem.. there is no discipline in society.. I truly believe there is nothing wrong w/a good swat on the ass.. Society has taken discipline away from the schools... taken it virtually away from the parents... so now we have all these kids out there that have no respect for anything.. not for whats around them, whose around them not even for themselves.
What the hell kind of world are we giving to our kids?